Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook COO and author of the 2013 bestselling book Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead, is a force for helping women to achieve their best professional potential. With the recent release of her new book, Option B, which she wrote partly in reaction to the unexpected and tragic death of her husband Dave Goldberg in 2015, Sandberg is reaching out to women anew — this time asking them to apply her “lean in” strategy to their personal lives.
In a recent interview with The Financial Times, Sandberg encouraged women to ask the hard questions of every potential life partner. Obviously, first dates are hard to get through and first impressions tricky to outrun. While there are always a bevy of questions and a pile of answers to sort through, women, Sandberg says, should always ask one pivotal question right out of the gate: Is this man going to support you in your career?
“You ask and you ask early and you are not afraid of offending,” Sandberg said, “If they’re going to be offended by the answer, you don’t want to date them anyway.” Instead of ignoring the obvious in favor of the fairytale, Sandberg encourages women to be practical, looking instead for, “the guys who want an equal relationship. Guys who want to support your career.”
While she emphasized that it’s fine to date around and have fun with those who don’t fulfill these kinds of relationship expectations, women should focus long-term on finding someone who is truly a “partner” in every aspect of the word. “You can date whoever you want,” Sandberg said, “but you should marry the nerds and the good guys.”
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