If you’re looking for a window into the mind of the married millennial woman, Cosmopolitan magazine provided one this week — and a glance through that window reveals that almost half of twentysomething married women want more sex. The survey polled 1,162 respondents between the ages of 20 and 29 on a range of topics related to married sex. Men were included in the survey sample. Some of the findings showed that 52 percent of total respondents wish they were having sex more often, and 47 percent of women said they wanted more sex. Many married twentysomethings, the survey showed, saw sex frequency with their spouse decreasing compared to before they were married.
A 26-year-old woman named Shannon summed it up like this to Cosmo: “Our ‘honeymoon period’ lasted quite a bit past the honeymoon. We used to have sex pretty much every day — now I’d say we’re lucky if it’s once a week.” Many respondents, however, attributed those declines not to a lack of desire, but to a lack of energy. Busy schedules leave many in their twenties too busy and tired for sex, the survey showed. So what do many millennials say they do when they can’t make time for sex? They masturbate. As Shannon put it, “We’ve talked about it, and we’re both pretty clear that it’s not a substitute for the real thing, so I wouldn’t say either of us really feels bad about it or that we do it all the time. It’s just helpful when one of us isn’t in the mood.”
The survey also took a look at millennial attitudes toward divorce, and found a significant number of respondents expressed regret over having gotten married and even more said they’ve threatened their spouses with divorce at least once in the last year. Of course, a recent study shows that sex actually gets better with age for many women, with the average woman reaching her sexual peak well after her twenties.